marriage problems

As most of you know, I’m of the belief that if you aren’t being abused, beaten or there isn’t any type of mental problems (drinking, drugs, etc) that a marriage can work – you just have to put your energy into it like you would a job, or something you really, really want.

So many of my friends are getting divorced because:  I’m not happy, he’s fat, he’s old, he’s boring, I’m having an affair with an amazing man.

That last one gets me.  If your life is so horrible, chances are it’s not your spouse, but it’s YOU.

No one will make you happy.  Ever.  That’s YOUR job.

So do what makes you happy.  And chances are…it’s not your partner.  It’s just you.

If it is your partner and he/she won’t change (you married them as they were remember??)

But if you’ve changed and want them to change, well, just do the right thing, pack it in, say good-bye and move on.

Today, an email was sent to me with the funniest story I’ve heard in a long, long time.  I actually laughed out loud.

Hope you laugh too!


Last week was my birthday and I didn’t feel very well when I woke up.

I went downstairs for breakfast hoping my husband would be pleasant and
say “ Happy Birthday ” and possibly have a small present for me.

As it turned out, he barely said good morning, let alone ‘Happy Birthday.’

I thought ….well, that’s marriage for you, but the kids…. they will remember.

My kids came bouncing down stairs to breakfast and didn’t say a word.
So when I left for the office I felt pretty low and somewhat despondent.

As I walked into my office, my handsome boss Rick, said “Good morning”
and by the way “Happy Birthday!”

It felt a little better that at least someone had remembered.

I worked until one o’clock, when Rick knocked on my door and said
‘You know, It’s such a beautiful day outside, and it is your birthday,
what do you say we go out to lunch, just you and me.’

I said, ‘Thanks, Rick, that’s the greatest thing I’ve heard all day. Let’s go!’

We went to lunch. But we didn’t go where we normally would go.
He chose instead a quiet bistro with a private table.
We had two martinis each and I enjoyed the meal tremendously.

On the way back to the office, Rick said, ‘You know, It’s such a beautiful day
we don’t need to go straight back to the office, do we?’

I responded, ‘I guess not. What do you have in mind?’

He said, ‘Let’s drop by my place, it’s just around the corner.’

After arriving at his house, Rick turned to me and said
‘If you don’t mind, I’m going to step into the bedroom for just a moment.

I’ll be right back.’

‘Ok’ I nervously replied.

He went into the bedroom and, after a couple of minutes,
he came out carrying a huge birthday cake, followed by my husband,
my kids, and dozens of my friends , all singing ‘Happy Birthday’.

And I just sat there….on the couch….naked….